You probably noticed almost immediately that the approach to almost everything is, well, a little different around here. You may even be thinking we've got some 'splainin to do.
After all, most of the websites you've probably seen out there talking about relationships are kind of cold, if not downright clinical. Many have blue headings above black words on a white background. It feels sort of like walking into a virtual doctor's office.
I don't know about you, but we avoid going to the doctor unless we have to! And then there's the occasional "marriage advice" site or two out there that has a brown leather background and dark graphics. That makes it feel like you're at a lawyer's office already. Man, talk about "out of the frying pan and into the fire"!
But when you land on ScotAndEmily.com things are a little, well...brighter, aren't they? I have to tell you that I (i.e Scot) was a bit on the fence about the green and purple theme you see, but Emily was all over it. Now that the site has been built, I agree it's pretty cool and I like the vibe.
After all, the issue here is that you'd think all long-term relationships were supposed to be pure drudgery, based on the mood of most "relationship advice" out there. But what do you think? Wouldn't you say that a man and a woman are supposed to have an absolute blast together...treating every moment of every day as a non-stop adventure? Well, if so we agree with you. A relationship between a man and a woman who claim to love each other should be a total joyride.
And sure, we all have to do the laundry, get the grocery shopping done and take out the trash. That's life. But with every single study out there showing that happily married folks with great sex lives live longer, healthier life spans we consider ourselves to somehow be on a potentially lifesaving mission. No kidding.
Now, for real...all of us are going to go through ups and downs in our relationships. But we don't think that's a "sickness" per se as much as matter of motivation, encouragement and, yes--fresh ways of thinking. So when your marriage isn't going the way you think it should, perhaps calling a doctor isn't what's in order. Especially if that means sitting in an office as someone else listens, nods his or her head and invites you back next week for more of the same.
What couples like you who desire greatness in their lives together really want are results. And that involves real teamwork. It starts with each individual who forms a couple with someone he or she loves committing to being one half of a great relationship. That's the essence of "deserving what you want". That's a radically different and decidedly less self-centered approach than what is seen elsewhere in today's media-driven culture, isn't it?
But that teamwork should extend beyond the two of you, also. A coach offers a level of pure motivation and personal relationship that a therapist simply cannot deliver. Emily and I, for example, believe in sharing our hearts and our experiences with you. We believe in working side-by-side with you through solid motivation and genuine concern. That means answering the phone around the clock, remaining flexible and even humble in our approach, and absolutely making "house calls" from time to time.
Most of all, as coaches we are committed to measurable results rather than an endless number of sessions that appear to lead nowhere but to more sessions. As coaches, we help you define goals and we help you reach them in a timely fashion...guaranteed. That's right, our service to you is backed by a 100% money-back guarantee.
There's certainly a time and a place for crisis management--even for stopping an impending divorce from happening. And rest assured Emily and I are very much prepared to be your "go-to" duo when that need arises. It's just that we are all about not waiting until you are in dire straits like that before we invite you to hang out with us.
So if you're a pretty normal couple in most ways (insofar as that's possible, right?), my guess is you'll find ScotAndEmily.com a refreshingly welcome change of pace. It's all about going from good to great in your relationship with your partner.
Beyond what you see today, which includes an interactive blog and a cool Facebook group called "The Happy Couple's Hangout", there are plans for creating even more of a close-knit community around here. Look for a forum in the future, along with live events. If you have ideas we'd love to hear from you. E-mail us anytime at scotandemily@scotandemily.com.
Whether you are one half of a happy couple today, or would like to be there again like you once were, we welcome you and are so glad you're here.
